Thank you for being a friend. For a growing number of older adults, the theme song from The Golden Girls has become a housing plan.
This year, KFF Health News, The New York Times, Vox and others have covered retirees who share homes, rent out spare rooms, or move into co-living houses with other adults. KFF counts about 55 home-sharing organizations now operating around the country. For many seniors, sharing a roof is a way to stay independent, split rising costs and stay connected.
The trend points to something families tell us every day: senior living is expensive, the options are confusing, and it is hard to know what you can truly afford. At Compass Senior Living Solutions, our Resource and Financial Advocates help families find that clarity, so fear never makes the decision.
The short answer is cost. The national median for assisted living reached $6,200 a month in 2025, up 5% from the year before, according to the CareScout Cost of Care Survey. And one in three households headed by someone 65 or older was cost-burdened in 2024, spending more than 30% of income on housing.
For someone on Social Security or a small pension, those numbers are hard to make work. So people get creative. In one Colorado match KFF described, a retiree went from $1,500 a month for her own apartment to $800 for a shared space. On the co-living side, PadSplit says its furnished rooms average about $629 a month across its markets, with utilities and Wi-Fi included.
The second reason is connection. Many people who choose shared housing say the company matters as much as the savings.
"Shared housing" can mean two quite different things. One is a personal arrangement between people who choose each other. The other is a room in a house run by a company.
| Intentional home-sharing | Commercial co-living (e.g., PadSplit) | |
|---|---|---|
| Who makes the match | Nonprofits such as Sunshine Home Share Colorado, HIP Housing or HomeShare Oregon, or platforms like Nesterly | A tech marketplace |
| The setup | A homeowner rents a spare room to a peer or younger tenant | A house split into private, lockable rooms with a shared kitchen |
| Typical cost | Often $600–$900/month, sometimes less in exchange for help around the house | About $629/month on average across markets (roughly $145/week), utilities and Wi-Fi included |
| Who lives there | Mostly older adults, or a senior paired with a younger renter | A mix of ages: working adults, students, retirees |
| What it feels like | Shared meals, check-ins, companionship | More private; residents often keep to their own rooms |
Both can save real money. But they are very different experiences, and neither one is a substitute for care.
Shared housing works well for some people. Housing experts point to a few things to weigh first.
Similar to a college financial aid office, Compass Senior Living Solutions helps families identify and maximize the financial resources available for their unique situation. In a single phone call, your personal Resource and Financial Advocate can walk you through the costs of senior living and the best ways to pay for it.
We help you understand all of your options. Sharing a home, staying at home with support, independent living, assisted living and memory care each fit different needs and budgets. We help you compare them side by side, so your choice rests on facts, not guesswork.
We help you maximize your financial resources. Many families don't know what help exists. We guide you through options such as veterans benefits, including VA Aid and Attendance; bridge loans; selling a home; long-term care and life insurance; possible tax deductions; and move management.
We plan for what comes next. If a shared home is the right fit today, we help you think through what happens if care needs grow, so the next move is a plan, not a crisis.
We are your dedicated advocates. Our role is not to sell. It is to help you make the decision that feels right, at your pace and without pressure. For families referred by one of our partner communities, our advocacy is free. Other families can work with us for a small fee.
The "Golden Girls" revival shows how hard older adults and their families are working to make senior living affordable. Sharing a home can be a smart, social and money-saving choice. It works best when you go in with clear eyes about cost, care and the road ahead.
Meet with a Resource and Financial Advocate. We'll help you understand your options, maximize your financial resources and move forward with confidence.
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